The first of February my wife Carol shared her observation that my every spare minute seemed to be directed to the nonprofit corporation Living Well 60 plus. She then asked me “What fuels you to get up at 4:30 or 5:00 a.m. every morning and be on the computer three hours plus all the time during the day you put in for this nonprofit enterprise?”
This was a great and timely inquiry.
l had been experiencing writers block from “Perfection” and not finishing the web site nor doing regular blogging.
The question really was a challenge for me to explore the landscape of my choices. I revisited and went deeper into one of the sessions from my “Running Your Brain Right For a Change” ™ workshop series ‘Put Your Money Where You Are’.
I realized that I had been writing as I did as an English school teacher and for the approval of others as I did with my dissertation for my Doctorate in Clinical Psychology degree. (There is a reason for calling the longest part of the degree ABD…All But Dissertation)
This realization was like throwing a light switch. The result has been a reawakening of my passion for being an agent for attracting the true energy of good health, happiness, joy and money in the lives of those I touch.
This undertaking now, with no concern on my part about “Oprah” fame or big dollars, is a freed up expression of joy as I share with others what is in me. I am about being of genuine contribution.
Writing from my “core authentic self, which is full of love and trust, is producing the physical sensations of comfort and ease. No longer crowded with fear and doubt, gratefulness is accompanying relaxation and lighter steps, creative writing bursts, easier laughter as well as tears. There is more room for appreciation, acceptance, caring about myself, others and life.
The web site is launched!
Here is the exercise on How Critical Incidents Can Lead To Fulfilling Goals WithSoul that I did. I invite you to do this exercise and look forward to you sharing your results with me at email@example.com .
1. Identify the seven most critical choices in your life and how your self-concept has been shaped by the results of those choices. The “recollecting” process is one of first recalling an incident, and second, a result. In this case, the incident is around the particular choice at a given time in my life. Developmental psychologists tell us the following are major life development age ranges: 1-5; 6-12, 13-20, 21-38, 39-55, 56 and beyond. It is helpful to recall situations and decisions from at least four of the seven.
2. Consider the “Whys” behind those choices; the “ What” factors came into play when you were faced with a choice, the motivations or needs that drove your decision?
Why I made the particular choice and what I think have been the results/outcomes for my life.
- What alternatives did I not choose and what would have been the results of those alternatives?
- What choices did I make for myself, versus those that I chose to have made for me?
- What factors came into play when I was faced with a choice?
Obviously, the inquiry involves the impact of certain external events, choices, and other people;and,the internal processing of those events, choices, and people. The result, the set of consequences that followed that choice, will be what shifts that decision to the status of a critical choice…to identify those various crossroads encountered at an earlier time.
Certainly, some of those choices and my internal reactions to them have created major results that have distorted my perceptions of myself and created defects in my expectations about and interactions with the world. And, isn’t that a good thing to know?
“You cannot change anything that you do not acknowledge as truth about yourself.”