Are you curious about How To Overcome The “Make Feel Myth”?
Morris Hamowitz, a psychologist friend and mentor, wrote a great handbook a number of years ago entitled “Suffering is Optional”. The central premise was how frequently we buy into the learned belief that “those others”, the “circumstances”, the “weather”, the “world”, makes us feel good or feel bad.
As small children we copied our parents, authority figures, and our cultural mores to fit in, to survive. These days, like an automatic default on a computer, we continue to see the “make feel myth” that served us in our youth in the newspapers, TV and movies and the people around us as the cause of our suffering.
No wonder then, through this semantic satiation, we reach a point where we unquestionably accept what we see, hear or feel to be fact. We automatically go through our days giving others and external events the power to make us feel in programmed ways. (Semantic Satiation, a big PhD term meaning that with enough repetition of certain words/phrases we become saturated, linguistic slippage occurs, and we accept what we have been hearing, seeing, feeling, as fact.)
Examples of the “Make Feel Myth”:
“He made me feel guilty!”
“She made me mad!”
“The movie was so boring!”
“The song made me so happy!”
“My job totally depresses me!”
“My kid is driving me crazy!”
Here’s my challenge on how you can put this information to the test in your own life over the next two weeks.
CHALLENGE: Simply keep track/journal –do not change anything- the instances each day you buy into the “Make Feel Myth”.
Simply being aware of an early childhood myth is the foundation of change in the now. And, interestingly, you will start reducing the number of instances you buy into a “Make Feel Myth”, begin noticing the circumstances and people around you that trigger the survival thinking, and begin changing/taking ownership of your feelings and actions.